Tag Archives: Trust

Random Musings: Marriage is a Business

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MARRIAGE (be it traditional, open, common law, alternative etc.) IS A BUSINESS…(I know that doesn’t sound romantic and people don’t like to admit or acknowledge this..but it is a fact.)

So many people seem to have missed that part and we often do not rear our children to view it as such!

The partner you choose, can make or break the outcome of your Life…Your health…wealth…DNA…spiritual, physical, emotional, & mental well being are all impacted by whom we choose to partner, reproduce, or parent with.

LOVE is an important component of marriage and if nurtured it grows with time… but it is not the only ingredient required to have a successful marriage or long term relationship!

I want to create wealth, raise strong and intelligent children, manifest my dreams, grow spiritually, and build a strong and stable connection as well as an empire with my life partner…There is indeed a BUSINESS Aspect and Mindset required to achieve this.

You must align yourself with a person that desires these things as well…not doing so can and often does create a rift (an opening made by splitting or a pulling in opposite directions) and oftentimes holds us back from living our best life.

Should you love each one another? Yes of course… And that love & trust should continue to grow stronger and stronger. But ultimately Marriage is a Partnership…The teamwork aspect is Pivotal. Sharing Common Goals, Mindsets, & Outlooks is paramount to success!! A strong friendship and mutual respect is the best foundation to build a solid relationship upon.

Marriage is BOTH Business and Love, but LOVE is not the only or sometimes even the most important aspect to focus on when selecting the right LIFE PARTNER.

You can LOVE someone and they still may not be the most wise or healthy choice for you as a Life Partner aka “Team Mate”. It all depends on what your desired long term outcome is.

Love is part of what you need to make it work but in no way is it ONLY what you need.

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Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: I Know What I Want

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“You ask Me what I Want, Need, & Desire. So let me share it from the heart and make it as plain as I can: I desire CONNECTION! Intimate, spiritual, physical, mental, sexual, beautiful Connection. Uninhibited, unrestricted, open, real, deep, pure connection. Less hiding & pretending, less punishment & blaming, no judgement or games. Just merging, exploring, sharing, being, giving, supporting, receiving energy freely. No dogmas, no agendas, no labels & expectations, just feeling & flowing. Laughter & kisses, creation & abundance, peace & pleasure, building & growing…LOVE ” ~ Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: Access Granted

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“When I open the door to the heart and soul of me and let you inside, I can only hope that you will understand the significance of the access given. The trust required and courage it takes. I can only hope that with my valuables you will take care. This I cannot demand but I can require for continued access to be granted.I am not responsible for, nor can I control, the actions of others but I am responsible for the reactions of Me.” ~ Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: I Choose Relief…

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Some days I simply choose relief…
this may look many different ways.
sometimes it’s a smile,
others it’s a gentle letting go,
at times it’s an outburst or a melting away,
some days it’s an air of “whatever” with a side of “I simply don’t care”
Whatever it is..I embrace it and honor my right to choose it in that moment.
There is no right or wrong in the matter. Interpret it as you will…
My only concern is that it is authentic and sits well with my soul
and I’m truly okay with that. ~ Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: (i Believe in You)

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“If you see it, touch it. If you touch it, feel it. If you feel it, appreciate it. And that you appreciate…..love it, give of yourself to it , and more will be added unto you. A life is not measured by the games that are won or the battles fought, it is simply measured by the moments lived fully, hearts touched deeply, and lives impacted by the presence of the essence of you. None of us know all of the answers to the pressing questions asked and all of us are moving towards different goals and experiences. All we can do is our best.

If I am able to leave only 1 impression with my existence on this earth I hope that I Inspire YOU to LIVE FULLY & LOVE WITH ABANDON….Do Not Live Your Life on MUTE!! Do not limit your possibilities! Do not be stifled by your or others Fears and Worries! Blast Your LIGHT For All the world to see. Bask in the Amazing Awesomeness of the Divine Essence that is YOU! We have enough naysayers and people to tell us why we can’t Do or Be! I am neither…my soul came here to Remind You that you are full of endless possibilities waiting to be expressed. You Can Do It, Be It, Create It!! I truly do Believe in You but none of this matters if YOU Do Not Believe in You Too! Whatever your dreams…GO FOR IT!!”~ With Love from my Heart to Yours, Twin Spirit #iBelieveInYOU

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Random Musings: Bruised But Not Broken

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I understand transition. I understand change. I understand non-permanence. I grasp the concept of ebb & flow. I know that all connections are in a constant state of flux.

Even with all of this understanding I still have a hard time when someone that I care about fades away or disappears. It’s not the actual fading that gets me it is the silence associated with the fading or disappearing act that hurts me most. It results in feelings of being unappreciated, used, and disposable. If I have known the person beyond a few months to a few years it can be even more traumatic. When someone I like, trust, love, or care for & who I believe cares for me, disengages & disappears from contact without any explanation at all it feels like a very deep deception.

One of the most insidious aspects of silent fading & disappearing is that it doesn’t just cause you to question the validity of the relationship or connection you had, it causes you to question yourself.

Why don’t people communicate openly more? If your feelings, path, plans, desires, motivations, attraction, thoughts, or point of focus have changed and you wish to move in a different direction I think it is the kind & mature thing to do to communicate said changes. Even if that conversation will be a little uncomfortable. Mind you, you don’t have to go into full detail but a simple “I need some time to myself” or “I am going to focus on xyz right now” etc. would suffice.

Silent fading & Disappearing is the ultimate use of the silent treatment, a tactic that has often been viewed by mental health professionals as a form of emotional cruelty. It essentially renders you powerless and leaves you with no opportunity to ask questions or be provided with information that would help you emotionally process the experience. It silences you and prevents you from expressing your emotions and being heard, which is important for maintaining your self-esteem.

Regardless of the Faders or Disappearers intent, this behavior is a passive-aggressive interpersonal tactic that can leave psychological bruises and scars.

I have to soothe myself and remember that when someone employs these tactics, it says nothing about me or my worthiness but speaks volumes about the person doing it. It shows he/she doesn’t have the courage to deal with the discomfort of their emotions or yours, and they either don’t understand the impact of their behavior or worse don’t care. In any case they have sent you an extremely loud message that says: I don’t have what it takes to have a mature healthy relationship with you. I then choose to be a mature person, retain my dignity, and let him/her go peacefully.

But I would be a liar if I said it doesn’t sting me a little whenever it happens.

Ah well…thus is life. I shall continue to be Authentically & Unapologetically Me. I shall keep Living and Loving freely knowing that not everyone will value what I bring to table but I will never turn down my capacity to connect and feel deeply out of fear.

I Shall Continue to Let My LIGHT Shine
~ Twin Spirit #BruisedButNotBroken

Random Musings: Moment of Gratitude

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All in all I have a pretty great life. My circle is small but the care, love, support, & friendship runs deep. I get to spend lots of my time doing things I genuinely enjoy with people I genuinely enjoy. My family is good and most days my heart is full. Are there challenges? Of course, but even those create the opportunity for me to dig deeper, to push forward, and discover my strength. It’s easy to get so caught up in the illusion of “the struggle” that we forget just how good our lives truly are. While they may not be filled with every little thing we want if we take an honest inventory I bet we will find that they are filled with every thing that we truly need. This moment of #Gratitude brought to you by the letter T (thankful). ~ always Twin Spirit www.iAmTwinSpirit.com