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Random Musings: Radical Honesty

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Are You COURAGEOUS Enough To Be Honest?

To be honest with yourself and others can be a difficult thing, because, in order to be honest, you must be courageous enough to take a look deep into your psyche and confront your weaknesses, fears, & insecurities—and expose them openly to the world—which is what we are most afraid of.

The majority of us have contrived a false image of ourselves. This image, however, is just a veil to cover our shadow self, not only from the eyes of others, but from our own as well. Thus the way we have been living so far is just an escape from self-understanding and genuine communication.

Unless we face, understand, and accept ourselves—unless we get in tune with the core of our feelings, emotions, thoughts, and intentions—how can we find harmony within ourselves and the world?

To look for truth, and to be honest, is terrifying. Forget big universal truths; I’m talking about little truths, personal truths. We are afraid to look inward, and to be honest with ourselves. And even if we are courageous enough to do that, then we are so concerned with the feelings of others, that we are afraid to share our truths with them. We punish ourselves with all sorts of guilt for even imagining causing someone emotional pain, when we really have no idea how they will feel if we were actually honest. We jump through crazy ridiculous hoops, all because we want to avoid the turmoil of potential emotional pain (theirs and ours). Being honest and being kind are not mutually exclusive. You can and should deliver your truth without blame or judgment, but definitely with kindness.

Sometimes we find ourselves in relationship dynamics with people who we perceive as emotionally fragile or explosive (it’s really the same thing). So we subjugate ourselves, and learn to maneuver around them. We do everything we can just to avoid those emotional mines. We never know when we’ll step on some trigger, so we hide the parts of ourselves we assume they will not accept or understand. We tread lightly. We speak less honestly. We express ourselves less openly. But unwittingly and inevitably repeating this process over and over, day in and day out, can cause resentments to grow. The less we share…the less of a connection is made. 

Instead, I propose that we try honesty. (It’s really scary, I KNOW, but it’s so very worth it). Let’s respect one another. Let’s trust each other to handle the truth. Let’s be really clear within ourselves, and with all the other people in our lives. Let’s unchain ourselves from guilt and obligation. Let’s give ourselves permission to be open, honest, & free. Let’s forget about seeking approval, and instead live in our own integrity. It is near to impossible to get to the places you desire and to receive the things you want in life when you are not open and honest about what you truly need.

In order to really give love, in a way that is unconditional you have to love yourself first. To love yourself simply means to honor your own needs.

Really living your truth is about getting still enough, and being courageous enough, to admit to yourself what you want, and what you don’t want. It’s tuning in to the pit-of-your-stomach feelings, and figuring stuff out from there. It is about standing in your integrity, and following your internal guidance, even when it goes against social norms, the mores of your specific community, or the good intentioned opinions of those we care for.

It takes courage, real courage, to live/speak your truth. Courage isn’t about jumping out of airplanes or diving with sharks. It’s not about physical activities that get the adrenaline pumping. Real courage happens in very quiet and subtle moments. In those intimate, vulnerable exchanges when you’re afraid to speak the truth. When you’re afraid to honor your own feelings, when you’re afraid that if you say or do what your heart is asking of you, that you will be dismissed, shamed, ridiculed, or rejected. Or that the truth of your feelings will hurt the feelings of another.

The most amazing thing about radical honesty is that YES it’s not always easy and Yes your life will change but you aren’t going to be alone and rejected in the ways you may worry about. You will instead filter out the people who love and accept the real you, from those that only conditionally accept you (if you fit in to the image of who they want you to be). If you are brave enough to be the real you, you will find lots of love, support, friendship, opportunity, and companionship from other souls who are just like you.

I hope you find the courage to try it. Being the real you (whatever that means), out in the open, it is truly gifts you with a rewarding and delicious life experience!

From my heart to yours,
Love Always…
~ Twin Spirit ღ

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Random Musings: Spiritual Vs. Religious

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Defining “Spiritual but Not Religious” for those who feel that a description is necessary 🙂 (While I don’t often feel compelled to explain myself for simply just being..I have found that it does sometimes bring a little peace to those that are uncomfortable with “MY” life choices…lol)

Spirituality is one’s capacity to be guided. It is not about how much we mediate. Or how often we go to church. Or how many yoga poses or Sanskrit words we know. Or how much time we spend praying. Or how many Om pieces of jewelry we have. Spirituality is really about how much we get out of our own way and allow ourselves to be guided by God.

That means . . .

Letting go of expectations.

Releasing attachments to the way we think things should be.

Quieting the voice of our ego so we can hear the voice of inner wisdom.

Making changes that maybe scary and facing uncertainty with faith.

Being of service to others that Spirit places in our lives in often unexpected ways.

Spirituality is a commitment to walking the spiritual path from the head to the heart. It’s a choice to free yourself from letting your ego take the lead in your life so you can surrender your ego’s attachments and instead, let your soul take the wheel.

It’s the decision to choose love over fear—to withhold judgment of yourself or others, to stop labeling everything as “right” or “wrong,” to transition from a black and white “dualistic” world to a non-dual perspective that is comfortable with paradox.

It’s the willingness to make your life an offering to the Divine in whatever form you resonate with a Higher Power, whether it’s God, Jesus, Allah, Buddah, the Wind, Music, Butterflies, Art, Chocolate, or some other deity or just the Divine within yourself.

It’s your commitment to learning to receive, interpret, and discern spiritual guidance, mixed with the courage to actually act upon this guidance. ~ Shared with Love

Twin Spirit

My Thoughts: www.MyBeautifulUglyWorld.wordpress.com
My Music: www.iAmTwinSpirit.com

Random Musings: Are You Ready To Grow?

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This message was on my heart when I awoke today. Spirit said to share: “Each day is not promised nor is each moment guaranteed. Remember to make/take time for those you really care for and love & for those you consider to be of value and important in your life. We often spend more time trying to impress those that don’t matter and trying to build our value to those who truly don’t care.

We are so “Ego” lead and accolade seeking that we take for granted that the people who genuinely love us will just wait on us to make space in our lives when it’s convenient for us and that those who mean something to us will always be there. So we push them to the back burner time and time again.

We expend tremendous amounts of energy and resources trying to prove “We Are Somebody” & “We Are Worthy” to those who are basically strangers and honestly who don’t give a damn. Yet we often say we don’t have time for those who have stood the test of time, who have loved & accepted us at our best and at our worst. We chase smoke and mirrors seeking validation yet cannot stand to spend a moment with those who have seen our true faces and love us just the way we are.

The adulation from the sea of bodiless faces glaring at us from our computer screens and mobile devices have become addictive and more important to us than the I love you’s, hugs, I want you’s, I miss you’s, & let’s spend some time request that come from flesh and blood people in your life that want to share your time & build and grow with you.

We prefer the ease of surface relationships as they paint the illusion of connection but without the real emotional investment or accountability. We would rather text than talk, face time than spend real time.

Many are serial dating and running from relationship to relationship seeking a quick fix and instant gratification. We desire to give the least amount of ourselves as we can but want the other to give their all or we pour all of our magical goodness into someone who sees us as nothing more than an ego boost or space filler until something better comes along.

We are wimps & wusses when it comes to LOVE and we run from anything and anyone that presents a challenge, that forces us to grow, & that requires our presence and us to deal with ourselves and our shit. We hide behind casual encounters and would rather “get off” than “Get Better”. We would rather “hump” than “Heal”. Rather “cum” than “Come to a Better Understanding of Self”. We seek what’s merely appeasing to our eyes over what can expand our hearts & souls and push us to the next level of mastery.

Growth/Expansion can only come when we move courageously through the experiences we draw into our lives. Not by running from and side stepping anything that requires a bit of effort on your part. People and experiences do not just randomly show up in your life. Your soul calls them forth. The gifts and golden nuggets are discovered during the most difficult quest. Yes…Love can be a challenge, commitment can be a challenge. Staying when it’s easier to run can be a challenge but it’s the challenges that bring out our inner warrior, that help shape our character, round out any rough edges, give us lessons we need for our future success and most importantly allow us to realize that we can manage through anything that comes our way..that we are POWERFUL!

The easy path is not always the most fruitful. People & experiences that push you out of your comfort zone & make you feel force you to dig deeper and are a gift from the Universe. As a stronger and wiser version of YOUR most amazing self awaits you on the other side of the experience”

~ Shared with Love from the heart of the Being Living this Life as Twin Spirit

Random Musings: I AM Many Things….

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YES beautiful people I am still a music artist and I still sing – It always makes me giggle and surprises me when people as me that- (A new project is in the works even as we speak – I just have to let a little life happen to be inspired to create new things) ~

I AM Twin Spirit & I Creatively Express the Spirit of Me in Many Many Ways!!

I create MUSIC: www.epresskitz.com/TwinSpirit
I love to write & share my Random Musings..so I blog: www.MyBeautifulUglyWorld.wordpress.com
I create wearable ART: www.ChoozLove.com
I love/sell recycled fashions: Fave platforms www.ThriftyGirlsRock.com & The Frugal Stop – Pop Up Shop
I love to support other Artist, so I partner with The SOFA Series: www.TheSofaSeries.com
I love to inspire Artist & small Art/Entertainment based businesses to grow so I provide consulting & administrative services: www.YuckWork.com

My Creative Self Expression is not limited to One Medium, One Form, One Experience, or One Platform. I Morph, Shift, Change, Expand, & Flow as I move through each and every moment. I want to experience all that this life has to offer…so I love hard, play hard, work hard, & relax as much as I desire. I try it all on for size. If inspired I MOVE. Labels, boxes, & expectations do not define me. ONLY the Callings of My Heart & Soul Mold the path that I chose to walk on this journey we call “LIFE”.

Shared with Love,
TwinSpirit

Random Musings: Loving You Is Loving Me

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“Loving you pushes me to love myself more. Forcing me to break down walls and let in light to places within me that I boarded up and hidden away in hopes of avoiding pain. Your love is ripping away old parts of me, parts that no longer serve me, parts that keep me rooted in a reality that no longer exist. Your kisses are dusting off my shames of yesterday. Your strong hands support me as I demolish the fears of hurts gone by. Rebuilding me & healing me….with Your Love”

-Words from the Heart of Twin Spirit, inspired by my heart, lover, & friend

 

Random Musings: All You Gotta Do is Say YES!!

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“Many like to start the New Year off saying “NO”. I choose to start 2014 with the spirit of “YES” – A spirit of Openness & Receptivity. Don’t You ever get tired of saying No to life? Of depriving your heart, body, mind, & soul of things and experiences it craves. Of living in fear of what “they” will think about You. Of holding back & holding in things that your spirit desires to bring forth into this physical existence. Of playing it cool & being aloof. Of shutting down & turning off your feelings. Of wondering “what if”…Of being afraid? Of hiding who YOU truly Are & who you desire to BE?

Step BOLDLY into the New Year…Cast away the limiting beliefs of others that have shackled you into a stagnant state of perpetual doubt & worry. The more you learn to say YES to Your Hopes, Your Wishes, Your Desires, Your Longings, Your Cravings, Your Instincts, Your Heart & Your Soul, like magic those things that no longer serve you begin to melt away from your life. KNOW that Your Joy, Happiness, Success, & Peace are not Contingent upon approval, acceptance, understanding, acknowledgment, or reciprocity from sources outside of YOU. REMEMBER: All You Gotta Do is say YES!!!” – words from the heart & soul of Twin Spirit…Shared with Love 🙂