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Random Musings: I Know What I Want

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“You ask Me what I Want, Need, & Desire. So let me share it from the heart and make it as plain as I can: I desire CONNECTION! Intimate, spiritual, physical, mental, sexual, beautiful Connection. Uninhibited, unrestricted, open, real, deep, pure connection. Less hiding & pretending, less punishment & blaming, no judgement or games. Just merging, exploring, sharing, being, giving, supporting, receiving energy freely. No dogmas, no agendas, no labels & expectations, just feeling & flowing. Laughter & kisses, creation & abundance, peace & pleasure, building & growing…LOVE ” ~ Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: I Don’t Believe in Loving Small!

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A MOMENT OF TRANSPARENCY: “I simply do not believe in Loving small. I have no idea how to do that. I do not know how to shrink the way that I feel or pretend that I care less than I do, honestly I see no benefit in withholding care or emotion. I see no use in starving those you care for of your presence and adoration or holding back affection.

I see no strength gained, safety secured, or virtue claimed in silencing I Love You’s, I Miss You’s, I Believe in You’s, & I Care’s. Why stingily dole out deep long hugs and passionate kisses. Or save for a later day our tender touches or passionate caresses.

Why are we so generous with complaints, criticisms, cold shoulders, attitudes, & anger but flinch at the mere thought of those we care deeply for knowing that we actually give a damn and care?

I refuse to participate in the lunacy of it all.

If I care about you then I am going to say it and show it in all the things that I do. I am going to be honest in my interactions with you and share openly how I think and feel. I am going to be as transparent as I can. If you move me, you’ll know it. If I crave your energy I will not hold back my desire to bask in it often. If you inspire me, I’ll tell you. If I am disappointed, I will share that too. If you stir my passions then so be it.

Genuine Care to me = openness, honesty, compassion, support, communication, time, laughter, fun, depth, freedom, trust, listening, respect, acceptance, & creative energy flow.

This Life is but a mere blink of an eye…I plan on living mine fully and loving with all that I have in me until I am no more. I am not afraid to LOVE & Be Loved. No regrets.” ~ always Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: LOVE-A New Paradigm

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“I am not afraid of relationships or commitment. Far from it. I am made for partnership and shine within a healthy loving connection. I honestly desire and prefer deep, intimate, long-term connections over short lived surface-level encounters. I simply choose not to have to exchange ownership of my heart, mind, body, freedom, dreams, & soul for outdated concepts of relating or what a relationship should look like.

We are still burdened with antiquated ideas about what men and women are supposed to look for and expect in a partner/spouse or relationship. These traditional and deeply embedded ideas are on a collision course with the facts on the ground and many of them are diminishing to our spirit. It’s time to open up and explore new relationship paradigms.

The new paradigm relationship is heart to heart and even higher level connections. The joy of this type of relating must be experienced to be fully understood.

In the new paradigm of YOU being, the ONE rather than some being outside of yourself, the power and truth of who you are is activated and a new understanding of your own freedom and power is now alive in every cell of your body to the core matrix of your soul – to be who you are. You no longer project the responsibility for your happiness, well-being, and expectation out onto your partner for you know that all of these states are an inside job.

This frees up the nature of relationships to expand and transform…to become more of a place that inspires and encourages our growth, movement, a place where all things are possible, a place where we support one another in becoming the “BEST VERISONS” of ourselves (whatever that might look like) rather than a prison of fear, where we cling to old beliefs of ownership, jealousy, co-dependency, punishment, emotional manipulation, & control and where we hold one another back out of fear that we might lose what we have. Where we see our partners as beings we own and who owe us total subjugation to prove they love us. Where we make someone else the sole source of our happiness and contentment. A realm filled with limiting experiences rather than being a place that gives those we love wings and our love encourages them to Soar & Fly and Be all that they dream and desire to BE!!

Call me a naive dreamer or an obstinate nonconformist if you like but my spirit knows that the idea we have of LOVE expands much deeper than we can even imagine and I choose to allow myself the opportunity to experience ALL that Life, Love, Connection, & the Human Experience has to offer…and I am not willing to sacrifice that potential by Living Small, Dimming my Light, Not using my Divine Gifts, Not Pursuing My Dreams, Not Speaking My Truth, Hiding my Desires, & Being Afraid to GO FOR IT when Connection Presents Itself, Pretending my needs don’t matter, or settling for a mediocre Relationship with someone who is afraid to FLY simply to maintain the status Quo.

Call me Selfish, call me Crazy, Call me anything you like but this is “My Life” and I choose to Live it Deeply, Fully, Creatively, Expansively, & Beautifully. I will not settle for relationships that do not move me, grow me, and stir my soul. Loving You should NEVER require sacrificing the Heart &Soul of ME. It should be a mutually value adding experience to every Spirit involved.

Yes…I Love you enough to Set you Free to Find the Love That Your Spirit Needs and I Love Myself enough to know that it’s okay if I simply decide to just Choose Me ~ Written & Shared From a place of Transparency, Honesty, & LOVE” ~ Twin Spirit

Random Musings: I don’t have time….

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Every single person on earth has the exact same amount of time every single day. We ALL get 24 hours to do whatever we need and want to do each day. What we make of that time is up to US….

When we feel like we don’t HAVE time for something, it’s almost always because we have not chosen to MAKE the time to do it because that thing is simply not a priority to us.

You can find the time. It exists. You choose not to devote the time, and there’s a big difference.

Every day, we make hundreds of decisions as to what we will and will not make time for.

We will all make different decisions at different times and in different seasons of life. The difference is not bad — it’s just priorities. It’s ALL About Priorities!

Fess Up If Your Priorities Change

Of course, our lives change and circumstances change. But when that happens to you, take the time to give the ramifications of those changes real thought, helping to see how priorities might have to shift correspondingly.

And most importantly, be honest with yourself. Admit that what once was critically important to you might not be as important now. Don’t blame it on not having enough time. That’s just code for “I don’t care as much as I used to, but haven’t admitted it to myself yet.”

So as we countdown to the wrap up of this crazy, crazy year called: “2016”, spend a few hours with yourself thinking about your priorities this year, and how they could or should change in 2017. It will give you a lot more clarity (and possibly a lot less guilt) down the road.

Knowing who you are and what you want can help set you in the right direction, and the earlier you start thinking about your life goals and what’s truly important to you, the easier it is to make the appropriate decisions and plans to reach it. ~ Twin Spirit

Random Musings: Love Boldly!!

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“LOVE Me Boldly!
No timid intentions.
Let your actions speak loudly the desires of your heart.
Uncertainty breeds insecurity, so
if you want me, Let me know.

I desire a partner who compels my strength and
who is not afraid to love me fully & freely.
not afraid to laugh with me.
not afraid to cry with me.
not afraid to move me.
not afraid to explore with me.
not afraid to grow with me.
not afraid to be open with me.
not afraid to inspire me.
not afraid to want me.
not afraid to need me.
not afraid to take risk with me or live out your fantasies with me.
not afraid to be your best and worst self with me.
not afraid to go deep with me in every way imaginable.

One who will stay when life gets messy but not because we are in a comfortable rut, or because we are to afraid to admit we desire more, or because it’s been so many years, or because we are content with the status quo as it doesn’t require us to face ourselves and own our shit, or because we’ve gotten so comfortable with our dysfunction that it feels like it’s okay, our because it would require us to stand on our own two feet and be independent rather than codependent, or because we are afraid to be honest and admit we have settled for less than our soul truly desires, or simply because it’s just easier to stay…

But one who STAYS because they cannot imagine another soul that they would rather get messy with and trust me it will get messy , travel the world with, slay dragons with, create with, build with, live their dreams with, fail & succeed with, serve the world with, dance in the rain with, expand their mind with, become the best version of themselves with, break down walls with, heal hearts with, tap into the essence of their spirit with, unleash their passions with, share quiet moments with, do everything and nothing with until they are no more…..

I crave a partner who will challenge me to ask questions, go deeper, never settle, & push harder.

Who will hold me accountable for my own happiness and join me in creating the life of our Dreams….TOGETHER!

and equally important One who will allow me to LOVE him boldly too.” – Twin Spirit

Random Musings: I Am Not My Skin

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This was on my heart today and I felt compelled to share: It may trigger some and perhaps inspire others but it is my TRUTH!

My Human experience is not limited to or defined by the color of my skin. As gloriously beautiful as my sun kissed melanin rich brown skin may be it alone does not inherently decide my path.

My exquisite brown skin, while divinely designed, determines not my Value, my Character, my Future, my Creativity, my Intelligence, my Beauty, my Strength, my Ability, my Courage, my Contribution, the expansiveness of my Spirit, the depth of my Love, nor the Capacity of my Mind to manifest. It is not the sum total of My Worth! To think otherwise diminishes the potentiality of the Powerful(l) spirit that is Me.

While those things may be influenced by the multitude of circumstances and experiences that I have been exposed to, many beyond the scope of my control, and may shape my journey; they have absolutely NO POWER to decide my ultimate fate. That decision and choice resides only with ME!

I will not perpetuate a spirit of hate or fear, nor support instilling a complex of inferiority or victim mindset. I will not villainize or condemn all of the other beautiful shades of the rainbow due to the crimes against humanity inflicted by some beings colored in that shade.

Nor do I subscribe to inspiring an over inflated stance of superiority or sense of entitlement based on skin tone into the hearts and minds of those whose skin in painted a brilliant shade of brown or any other shade for that matter.

Yes You Matter, and You Matter, & You Matter simply because you “ARE” & you “EXIST”, because you woke up this morning and YOU ARE HERE!! Because you are a Divine Being finding your way through this Human Experience ….Not because of your color, your system of belief, your race, your religion, your sexuality, your economic class, your education, your size, your history, your culture, your relationship status, how you live, how you love, what you eat, how you speak, where you were born, your challenges, your maltreatment, your triumphs, successes, or failures…but for no other reason than You being YOU!!!

I will NEVER give my POWER to BE Any and Everything that I dream and desire over to some preconceived notion or stereotype of who I Am or ought to be. Nobody that has come, is here now, or will ever Be gets to determine my Journey but the GOD in ME!

Outside factors may provide a palette of colorful experience but I and I alone get to paint my world and I choose to paint mine POWERFULLY BEAUTIFUL while proudly donning skin in a Beautiful shade of Chocolate Brown!!

Shared with nothing but Love from the Heart, Mind, Body, & Soul of the Spiritual Being living this life journey as Twin Spirit #UnapologeticallyLovingMe #Free

Random Musings: What Do I Want?

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I was asked a very pointed question and decided I would share my answer publicly. The Question: What Do I Want From a Man? I did have to clarify this question with the asker as I wasn’t clear if they wanted to know what I want from all men I encounter in general or if they were inquiring about what I desire from a man I am dating or interested in romantically. (These are in fact 2 very different questions – Always be sure you are asking the correct question, this helps ensure you get the appropriate answer you are seeking #BetterCommunication101 ).

My Answer: From a man that I am interested in romantically, more than anything I simply want him to be himself and I want him to be comfortable with who he has chosen to be. Not who or what he thinks will be more appealing to me but completely himself. I say this because anything that grows and develops I wish to blossom from a base of honest appreciation and natural attraction & escalation. If we become great friends, or lovers, or should things grow deeper and we even decide that we wish to merge and share our lives together all stems from how we blend, meld, connect, communicate, & interact naturally. There truly are some things that have to just happen organically. I also desire him to be honest, open, & a good verbal communicator (now if these things are not naturally who he is then that’s okay too it just may mean that we may not resonate and things will likely not escalate and that’s part of the natural mating dance.)

There used to be a time when I was in a hurry, and wanted things to happen “NOW”. A time when I would attempt to morph myself into the shape of the woman I thought the object of my affection would like for me to be in order to decide to make me his one and only. As I have grown and experienced life I have learned that first love is plentiful and grows in abundance, there is no shortage and thus no need to hurry.

Secondly, ALL things grow and develop in their own way and in their own time. I have also learned that there is no such thing as “The One”. Just as there are many many people on this planet there are many many opportunities to love. Each one bringing a different experience to expand and grow. There is no shortage of “Good Men” or “Good Women”. Only limiting perspectives, self-imposed boundaries, and fear based thinking that often keeps us from opening up and truly experiencing all that love and life has to offer us.

Lastly, I discovered my natural love style is more polyamorous in nature..meaning I am capable of loving deeply and intimately more than one person at a time. This last discovery opened me up to a whole new world of Freedom in that it allowed me to see that no “ONE” person can or should be wholly responsible for my every need, want, & desire being fulfilled. It’s freed me and has freed my potential loves from the spirit of ownership & control that most relationships inspire. It has allowed me to be open to seeing so many different relationship structure possibilities beyond the traditional “monogamy dynamic”. It has tasked me with being responsible for my own happiness and self care and most importantly it has forced me to be completely open and honest about who I am and what I desire as you cannot not get your needs met if you do not know what they are or share what they are.

So the short answer: I want a man who is just totally and completely himself and who is trusting enough to allow things to manifest organically into whatever they naturally become.   Shared openly and honestly from the heart of Twin Spirit

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