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Random Musings: Radical Honesty

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Are You COURAGEOUS Enough To Be Honest?

To be honest with yourself and others can be a difficult thing, because, in order to be honest, you must be courageous enough to take a look deep into your psyche and confront your weaknesses, fears, & insecurities—and expose them openly to the world—which is what we are most afraid of.

The majority of us have contrived a false image of ourselves. This image, however, is just a veil to cover our shadow self, not only from the eyes of others, but from our own as well. Thus the way we have been living so far is just an escape from self-understanding and genuine communication.

Unless we face, understand, and accept ourselves—unless we get in tune with the core of our feelings, emotions, thoughts, and intentions—how can we find harmony within ourselves and the world?

To look for truth, and to be honest, is terrifying. Forget big universal truths; I’m talking about little truths, personal truths. We are afraid to look inward, and to be honest with ourselves. And even if we are courageous enough to do that, then we are so concerned with the feelings of others, that we are afraid to share our truths with them. We punish ourselves with all sorts of guilt for even imagining causing someone emotional pain, when we really have no idea how they will feel if we were actually honest. We jump through crazy ridiculous hoops, all because we want to avoid the turmoil of potential emotional pain (theirs and ours). Being honest and being kind are not mutually exclusive. You can and should deliver your truth without blame or judgment, but definitely with kindness.

Sometimes we find ourselves in relationship dynamics with people who we perceive as emotionally fragile or explosive (it’s really the same thing). So we subjugate ourselves, and learn to maneuver around them. We do everything we can just to avoid those emotional mines. We never know when we’ll step on some trigger, so we hide the parts of ourselves we assume they will not accept or understand. We tread lightly. We speak less honestly. We express ourselves less openly. But unwittingly and inevitably repeating this process over and over, day in and day out, can cause resentments to grow. The less we share…the less of a connection is made. 

Instead, I propose that we try honesty. (It’s really scary, I KNOW, but it’s so very worth it). Let’s respect one another. Let’s trust each other to handle the truth. Let’s be really clear within ourselves, and with all the other people in our lives. Let’s unchain ourselves from guilt and obligation. Let’s give ourselves permission to be open, honest, & free. Let’s forget about seeking approval, and instead live in our own integrity. It is near to impossible to get to the places you desire and to receive the things you want in life when you are not open and honest about what you truly need.

In order to really give love, in a way that is unconditional you have to love yourself first. To love yourself simply means to honor your own needs.

Really living your truth is about getting still enough, and being courageous enough, to admit to yourself what you want, and what you don’t want. It’s tuning in to the pit-of-your-stomach feelings, and figuring stuff out from there. It is about standing in your integrity, and following your internal guidance, even when it goes against social norms, the mores of your specific community, or the good intentioned opinions of those we care for.

It takes courage, real courage, to live/speak your truth. Courage isn’t about jumping out of airplanes or diving with sharks. It’s not about physical activities that get the adrenaline pumping. Real courage happens in very quiet and subtle moments. In those intimate, vulnerable exchanges when you’re afraid to speak the truth. When you’re afraid to honor your own feelings, when you’re afraid that if you say or do what your heart is asking of you, that you will be dismissed, shamed, ridiculed, or rejected. Or that the truth of your feelings will hurt the feelings of another.

The most amazing thing about radical honesty is that YES it’s not always easy and Yes your life will change but you aren’t going to be alone and rejected in the ways you may worry about. You will instead filter out the people who love and accept the real you, from those that only conditionally accept you (if you fit in to the image of who they want you to be). If you are brave enough to be the real you, you will find lots of love, support, friendship, opportunity, and companionship from other souls who are just like you.

I hope you find the courage to try it. Being the real you (whatever that means), out in the open, it is truly gifts you with a rewarding and delicious life experience!

From my heart to yours,
Love Always…
~ Twin Spirit ღ

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Random Musings: Please…Stop the Hate!!

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“It is so easy to draw conclusions and judge others when you do not know their story or fully understand the reasons why they do the things they do. It is easy to condemn, put down, & ridicule those who walk a different path. We all do it….

Though it is human to evaluate people & situations we encounter based on first impressions, the conclusions we come to are seldom unaffected by our own fears, experiences, our own preconceptions, & limited perspectives. As such, our judgments are frequently incomplete. If we explored a bit more deeply into the heart of the tendency to categorize and criticize, we would often find our own personal insecurity.

Recognizing that we limit our awareness by assessing others critically can make moving past our initial impressions much easier. Judgments seldom leave room for alternate possibilities.

We often Empower our own Self Image through Disempowering others.

Harsh judgment and anger is far worse for the heart than any plaque or cholesterol laden food. To judge one moment in time, without regard for the past or what is to come in the future, lacks wisdom.

None of us enjoy being Judged, but we dole out hasty & often hateful judgements to others on a regular basis. We all want to be heard, understood, and accepted, so isn’t it humorous that we often chose not to extend those same courtesies to others.

Learn to Listen to each other’s story; find some compassion; judge less and love more…starting with yourself. Judge Less & Accept More. To Accept (to receive or acknowledge something) does not mean you Agree (harmonize in opinion, feeling, or view). To enable connection, one must be willing to accept the ideas of other people as, at the very least, true for them.

We will likely never all agree about our belief systems or life choices for that matter, and while it is great to build a network of people who do view the world and other lifestyle choices the same way you do, we also need to respect those who choose to live or believe in a way we disagree with… without being arrogant or judgmental in our interactions.

As the greatest cause of Dis-Ease in man is often the heavy servings of guilt, condemnation, judgement, impatience, intolerance, & lack of love that we feed one another on a daily basis.” – Shared with Love, Twin Spirit  ❦

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Random Musings: I AM Many Things….

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YES beautiful people I am still a music artist and I still sing – It always makes me giggle and surprises me when people as me that- (A new project is in the works even as we speak – I just have to let a little life happen to be inspired to create new things) ~

I AM Twin Spirit & I Creatively Express the Spirit of Me in Many Many Ways!!

I create MUSIC: www.epresskitz.com/TwinSpirit
I love to write & share my Random Musings..so I blog: www.MyBeautifulUglyWorld.wordpress.com
I create wearable ART: www.ChoozLove.com
I love/sell recycled fashions: Fave platforms www.ThriftyGirlsRock.com & The Frugal Stop – Pop Up Shop
I love to support other Artist, so I partner with The SOFA Series: www.TheSofaSeries.com
I love to inspire Artist & small Art/Entertainment based businesses to grow so I provide consulting & administrative services: www.YuckWork.com

My Creative Self Expression is not limited to One Medium, One Form, One Experience, or One Platform. I Morph, Shift, Change, Expand, & Flow as I move through each and every moment. I want to experience all that this life has to offer…so I love hard, play hard, work hard, & relax as much as I desire. I try it all on for size. If inspired I MOVE. Labels, boxes, & expectations do not define me. ONLY the Callings of My Heart & Soul Mold the path that I chose to walk on this journey we call “LIFE”.

Shared with Love,
TwinSpirit

Random Musings: So Proud of Me….

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Today I found myself standing face to face with a situation that I have met many many many times before in my life…its part of a cycle. I recognized it completely for what it was. It paralyzed me for a moment as I found myself struggling since my immediate reaction was to respond in the way I always did in the past. My old thought patterns began to speak to me and I found myself feeling worry, then sadness, feeling less than, & then fear. The comfortable thing to do would have been to simply reACT & go into my old response mode…But this time I didn’t do anything at all. I just sat there, very aware that I was on the brink of a major breakthrough…I allowed myself to just be still and feel every single emotion that the situation was stirring up in me.

I observed & watched the whole scene play out as if I were viewing a movie. Then I answered each feeling that arose with my new truth…when I felt unworthy I said that is a lie, you are More Than Enough. When the sadness crept in, I sad thank you for coming to visit me but you are no longer needed here because I am choosing Joy. It was truly an internal battle, My old negative thought patterns fighting it out with my true self. I am very proud to say that my Higher Self won the battle. I was able to redirect my thoughts & energy and this time I responded in a NEW way that felt empowering, deliberate, & loving to the spirit of Me. I chose to honor the God in ME rather than succumb to the fears….and it felt amazing!! ‪#‎Awareness‬ ‪#‎Growth‬ ‪#‎Winning‬

Random Musings: I Awaken by TwinSpirit

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  1. “I thought I was angry at you
    for letting me down and leading me on.

    I thought I had every right to be feeling
    as I do.

    I blamed you for all of the hurt & pain
    for your aloofness & detachment,
    for my disappointment & tears.

    Then in the silence of a single moment
    it came to me,

    I realized that not once had you ever promised me anything.
    Not once did you ever say it would be forever.
    Not once did you commit to always. Not once did you ask me for my heart or devotion.

    I gave my everything to you in hopes that in it you would find value and in return would give your everything to me.

    I had in fact built a future for “WE” constructed solely on the desires of “ME”.

    The truth is I had in fact been the selfish one. Holding you hostage to the unrevealed expectations in my mind.

    You simply enjoyed the present moments that we shared. While I was so fixated on the future could be’s I missed out on the beautiful nows that you gifted me with regularly.

    I never appreciated all that you did do, as I was so focused on what I felt you didn’t. Imaginary shortcomings created by me.

    So blinded by my overly romantic colored visions filled with grandiose gestures of undying love that I had allowed myself to believe must happen to paint the perfect picture of future forever love, I could not see clearly the simplistic beauty of a man giving me his heart via his presence in the present. Sharing his soul in the way that he could right now.”

    – I Awaken by TwinSpirit © Beautiful Ugly Publishing 2014

Random Musings: Love & Magic

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“YES…I am afraid sometimes of what being fully open to this experience we call life may be bring.

I get scared and want to hold back all of the beautifully wonderful gifts that being fully in the feminine allows me to tap into because being open, receptive, & vulnerable also leaves me open to pain…and if we are honest we are all deeply afraid of being rejected & hurt..”Again”.

But truth be told I would rather risk all the hurt & pain that life can throw at me if it also means that this openness will allow me the opportunity to submerge myself in the deep wells of Love, Joy, Gratitude, Grace, Peace, & Well Being that also Abounds in this experience.

With all my Heart….I STILL BELIEVE in LOVE & MAGIC” Twin Spirit

Random Musings: You’re A Mirror….

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“It’s so easy to let past pains, disappointments, unexpected outcomes, & fears jade you to all of the beautiful possibilities life still possesses and offers in each new moment.

There are many painful experience’s that hide behind my smile. I have seen my fair share of pain & loss, been hurt so deeply at times during this life’s journey that I could barely breathe. I have been brokenhearted, left battered and wounded and wondering why. I have blindly chased those who didn’t love me and given myself away to those who saw no value in the gifts I came baring. So many times over and over and over again I have given all that I have in me to give with no sight of reciprocity on the horizon..Believing that if I just loved a little harder and held on a little longer that I could convince someone that I am worthy of Being Loved…..

And then like a refreshing breeze after the rain…..along came YOU….No pomp, no circumstance, no smoke, no mirrors…You sauntered into my life, with a quiet strength. Asking only that I simply be me and reminding me in your own beautiful ways that I AM ENOUGH. Reflecting Love Back at Me”

 

Confessions from a girl in Love by Twin Spirit