Tag Archives: letting go

Random Musings: Let It Go!!!

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“Sometimes the best BEST thing you can do is simply “Let Go”….

Of people who don’t value you, expectations, fears, pain, unhealthy connections, judgements, preconceived notions, lost causes, unrequited love, the desire to control, playing small, being a martyr, game players, situations that leave you unfulfilled, time wasters, essence zappers, & spirit breakers.

Holding on tightly to and focusing on these things drains your energy and distracts you from all of the possibilities that await you. Life goes on and the sun always rises and shines its light brightly somewhere everyday…So Should We! #BeLikeTheSUN” ~ Words from the heart of: Twin Spirit #SharedWithLove

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Random Musings: Just Read Me

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A Moment of Transparency from TwinSpirit : Have you ever woken up, looked around at your current situation and asked yourself “How Did I End Up Back In This Same Place Again?”. There are times when you have to ask yourself what you really really want in this life.

Not what you are “okay” with or the minimum you are willing to accept or what you have accepted in the past, but what is it that you truly long for in this life and then you must honestly decide if you have been doing all that is necessary to bring those things into fruition. If not, You must ask yourself are you ready and willing to do what is required to achieve those things and once you have them are you willing to put in the work to maintain them.

I finally had to admit to myself a few years ago that some of the things that I deeply longed for I had yet to achieve or receive because over and over again I had often settled for less than what I truly wanted, needed, desired, & honestly deserved in many situations.

I held on when it would have been wiser to let go, I said yes when I should have said no. I allowed my understanding nature & kindness to be pushed and stretched beyond limits that were healthy for me. I let my desire to be a “nice” or “good” person overshadow my ability to be truly honest when my needs were not being met or I was hurting because I was afraid that asking for what I truly wanted would make me appear needy.

The Real & Hard TRUTH is that most times we are in the spaces and places we are in because we allow it. Somewhere deep inside we feel powerless and at the mercy of our circumstances.

The moment we realize that we are the key that unlocks the prison door we instantly become FREE.

Free to let go, move forward, make changes, say no & say Yes to what our souls truly desire.

You are the Captain of your own destiny. Plot your course and sail it in the direction of your purpose and dreams. Whatever they may be. Release those things that hold you back and hold you down. Silence self doubt and the whispers in your ears telling you what you can’t do or where you can’t go. They are lies.

You do not need anyone’s permission to live a better life. So stop waiting for the worlds approval and Go For It….and remember ONLY YOU have the power to decide what “IT” shall be.

I Believe In You…But The Magic Happens When YOU Believe In You Too!!

Love Always,
~ Twin Spirit

Random Musings: Bruised But Not Broken

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I understand transition. I understand change. I understand non-permanence. I grasp the concept of ebb & flow. I know that all connections are in a constant state of flux.

Even with all of this understanding I still have a hard time when someone that I care about fades away or disappears. It’s not the actual fading that gets me it is the silence associated with the fading or disappearing act that hurts me most. It results in feelings of being unappreciated, used, and disposable. If I have known the person beyond a few months to a few years it can be even more traumatic. When someone I like, trust, love, or care for & who I believe cares for me, disengages & disappears from contact without any explanation at all it feels like a very deep deception.

One of the most insidious aspects of silent fading & disappearing is that it doesn’t just cause you to question the validity of the relationship or connection you had, it causes you to question yourself.

Why don’t people communicate openly more? If your feelings, path, plans, desires, motivations, attraction, thoughts, or point of focus have changed and you wish to move in a different direction I think it is the kind & mature thing to do to communicate said changes. Even if that conversation will be a little uncomfortable. Mind you, you don’t have to go into full detail but a simple “I need some time to myself” or “I am going to focus on xyz right now” etc. would suffice.

Silent fading & Disappearing is the ultimate use of the silent treatment, a tactic that has often been viewed by mental health professionals as a form of emotional cruelty. It essentially renders you powerless and leaves you with no opportunity to ask questions or be provided with information that would help you emotionally process the experience. It silences you and prevents you from expressing your emotions and being heard, which is important for maintaining your self-esteem.

Regardless of the Faders or Disappearers intent, this behavior is a passive-aggressive interpersonal tactic that can leave psychological bruises and scars.

I have to soothe myself and remember that when someone employs these tactics, it says nothing about me or my worthiness but speaks volumes about the person doing it. It shows he/she doesn’t have the courage to deal with the discomfort of their emotions or yours, and they either don’t understand the impact of their behavior or worse don’t care. In any case they have sent you an extremely loud message that says: I don’t have what it takes to have a mature healthy relationship with you. I then choose to be a mature person, retain my dignity, and let him/her go peacefully.

But I would be a liar if I said it doesn’t sting me a little whenever it happens.

Ah well…thus is life. I shall continue to be Authentically & Unapologetically Me. I shall keep Living and Loving freely knowing that not everyone will value what I bring to table but I will never turn down my capacity to connect and feel deeply out of fear.

I Shall Continue to Let My LIGHT Shine
~ Twin Spirit #BruisedButNotBroken

Random Musings: Mystery of Change

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I can be a passionately intense person. I am fully aware of this…lol 🙂 (It can be scary for the faint of heart, those who are not use to or comfortable with radical honesty/openness, or those who have only known and experienced lukewarm half-hearted connections).

When I like you..I tell you. If you inspire me..I let you know. If I see greatness in you..I fully support your dreams. If I value you..I protect our connection. If you move me…I invite you into my life. If I appreciate you..I say Thank You. If I love you…I’ve got you always in all things. If you hurt me (repeatedly)…I walk away. If I trust you…I share my heart. If our paths seem meant to cross…I explore the possibilities. If you are not good for me…I let you go.

I choose to have the best life I can and this often means stepping outside of my comfort zone, being vulnerable, being open, seizing the moment, not resisting & allowing the magic to flow, doing the work, not allowing fear to be my guide, asking for what I want, being honest even when it makes me uncomfortable and I’m afraid of the outcome that may follow, knowing when to move forward, & even knowing when to let go.

Until you want change MORE than you want things to stay the same…they shall remain. YOU are the master designer of your own life. I choose to design mine Amazingly Beautiful & Epically Fulfilling #SeizeTheDayGodsAndGoddesses ~ Always Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: This Time…I Choose Me

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LOVE Me Boldly!
No timid intentions.
Let your actions speak loudly the desires of your heart.
Uncertainty breeds insecurity, so
if you want me, then show me.
If you’re unsure, that’s fine you see
Just please step aside, because
I Choose Me.” – TwinSpirit

Random Musings: To All of my Lovers Past…Thank You!!

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thank youTo all of My Lovers Past: Thank you for teaching me that the love I seek is one that is extraordinary. Thank you for showing me everything that I don’t want, so that when I finally come face-to-face with what I do want—I’ll have the courage to go after it. Thank you for showing me that I don’t want someone to be only half in love with me, or to merely appreciate me—but to leave them breathless. Thank you for leaving me with my loneliness so I could find my way back to myself. Thank you for placing me in uncomfortable situations which forced me to embrace, appreciate, explore, trust, understand, honor, value & Love Myself First ~ with LOVE Twin Spirit