A MOMENT OF TRANSPARENCY: “I simply do not believe in Loving small. I have no idea how to do that. I do not know how to shrink the way that I feel or pretend that I care less than I do, honestly I see no benefit in withholding care or emotion. I see no use in starving those you care for of your presence and adoration or holding back affection.
I see no strength gained, safety secured, or virtue claimed in silencing I Love You’s, I Miss You’s, I Believe in You’s, & I Care’s. Why stingily dole out deep long hugs and passionate kisses. Or save for a later day our tender touches or passionate caresses.
Why are we so generous with complaints, criticisms, cold shoulders, attitudes, & anger but flinch at the mere thought of those we care deeply for knowing that we actually give a damn and care?
I refuse to participate in the lunacy of it all.
If I care about you then I am going to say it and show it in all the things that I do. I am going to be honest in my interactions with you and share openly how I think and feel. I am going to be as transparent as I can. If you move me, you’ll know it. If I crave your energy I will not hold back my desire to bask in it often. If you inspire me, I’ll tell you. If I am disappointed, I will share that too. If you stir my passions then so be it.
Genuine Care to me = openness, honesty, compassion, support, communication, time, laughter, fun, depth, freedom, trust, listening, respect, acceptance, & creative energy flow.
This Life is but a mere blink of an eye…I plan on living mine fully and loving with all that I have in me until I am no more. I am not afraid to LOVE & Be Loved. No regrets.” ~ always Twin Spirit ❤
Every single person on earth has the exact same amount of time every single day. We ALL get 24 hours to do whatever we need and want to do each day. What we make of that time is up to US….
When we feel like we don’t HAVE time for something, it’s almost always because we have not chosen to MAKE the time to do it because that thing is simply not a priority to us.
You can find the time. It exists. You choose not to devote the time, and there’s a big difference.
Every day, we make hundreds of decisions as to what we will and will not make time for.
We will all make different decisions at different times and in different seasons of life. The difference is not bad — it’s just priorities. It’s ALL About Priorities!
Fess Up If Your Priorities Change
Of course, our lives change and circumstances change. But when that happens to you, take the time to give the ramifications of those changes real thought, helping to see how priorities might have to shift correspondingly.
And most importantly, be honest with yourself. Admit that what once was critically important to you might not be as important now. Don’t blame it on not having enough time. That’s just code for “I don’t care as much as I used to, but haven’t admitted it to myself yet.”
So as we countdown to the wrap up of this crazy, crazy year called: “2016”, spend a few hours with yourself thinking about your priorities this year, and how they could or should change in 2017. It will give you a lot more clarity (and possibly a lot less guilt) down the road.
Knowing who you are and what you want can help set you in the right direction, and the earlier you start thinking about your life goals and what’s truly important to you, the easier it is to make the appropriate decisions and plans to reach it. ~ Twin Spirit
“LOVE Me Boldly!
No timid intentions.
Let your actions speak loudly the desires of your heart.
Uncertainty breeds insecurity, so
if you want me, Let me know.
I desire a partner who compels my strength and
who is not afraid to love me fully & freely.
not afraid to laugh with me.
not afraid to cry with me.
not afraid to move me.
not afraid to explore with me.
not afraid to grow with me.
not afraid to be open with me.
not afraid to inspire me.
not afraid to want me.
not afraid to need me.
not afraid to take risk with me or live out your fantasies with me.
not afraid to be your best and worst self with me.
not afraid to go deep with me in every way imaginable.
One who will stay when life gets messy but not because we are in a comfortable rut, or because we are to afraid to admit we desire more, or because it’s been so many years, or because we are content with the status quo as it doesn’t require us to face ourselves and own our shit, or because we’ve gotten so comfortable with our dysfunction that it feels like it’s okay, our because it would require us to stand on our own two feet and be independent rather than codependent, or because we are afraid to be honest and admit we have settled for less than our soul truly desires, or simply because it’s just easier to stay…
But one who STAYS because they cannot imagine another soul that they would rather get messy with and trust me it will get messy , travel the world with, slay dragons with, create with, build with, live their dreams with, fail & succeed with, serve the world with, dance in the rain with, expand their mind with, become the best version of themselves with, break down walls with, heal hearts with, tap into the essence of their spirit with, unleash their passions with, share quiet moments with, do everything and nothing with until they are no more…..
I crave a partner who will challenge me to ask questions, go deeper, never settle, & push harder.
Who will hold me accountable for my own happiness and join me in creating the life of our Dreams….TOGETHER!
and equally important One who will allow me to LOVE him boldly too.” – Twin Spirit
I was asked a very pointed question and decided I would share my answer publicly. The Question: What Do I Want From a Man? I did have to clarify this question with the asker as I wasn’t clear if they wanted to know what I want from all men I encounter in general or if they were inquiring about what I desire from a man I am dating or interested in romantically. (These are in fact 2 very different questions – Always be sure you are asking the correct question, this helps ensure you get the appropriate answer you are seeking #BetterCommunication101 ).
My Answer: From a man that I am interested in romantically, more than anything I simply want him to be himself and I want him to be comfortable with who he has chosen to be. Not who or what he thinks will be more appealing to me but completely himself. I say this because anything that grows and develops I wish to blossom from a base of honest appreciation and natural attraction & escalation. If we become great friends, or lovers, or should things grow deeper and we even decide that we wish to merge and share our lives together all stems from how we blend, meld, connect, communicate, & interact naturally. There truly are some things that have to just happen organically. I also desire him to be honest, open, & a good verbal communicator (now if these things are not naturally who he is then that’s okay too it just may mean that we may not resonate and things will likely not escalate and that’s part of the natural mating dance.)
There used to be a time when I was in a hurry, and wanted things to happen “NOW”. A time when I would attempt to morph myself into the shape of the woman I thought the object of my affection would like for me to be in order to decide to make me his one and only. As I have grown and experienced life I have learned that first love is plentiful and grows in abundance, there is no shortage and thus no need to hurry.
Secondly, ALL things grow and develop in their own way and in their own time. I have also learned that there is no such thing as “The One”. Just as there are many many people on this planet there are many many opportunities to love. Each one bringing a different experience to expand and grow. There is no shortage of “Good Men” or “Good Women”. Only limiting perspectives, self-imposed boundaries, and fear based thinking that often keeps us from opening up and truly experiencing all that love and life has to offer us.
Lastly, I discovered my natural love style is more polyamorous in nature..meaning I am capable of loving deeply and intimately more than one person at a time. This last discovery opened me up to a whole new world of Freedom in that it allowed me to see that no “ONE” person can or should be wholly responsible for my every need, want, & desire being fulfilled. It’s freed me and has freed my potential loves from the spirit of ownership & control that most relationships inspire. It has allowed me to be open to seeing so many different relationship structure possibilities beyond the traditional “monogamy dynamic”. It has tasked me with being responsible for my own happiness and self care and most importantly it has forced me to be completely open and honest about who I am and what I desire as you cannot not get your needs met if you do not know what they are or share what they are.
So the short answer: I want a man who is just totally and completely himself and who is trusting enough to allow things to manifest organically into whatever they naturally become. Shared openly and honestly from the heart of Twin Spirit
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“To be wrapped in the warm secure cocoon of your never letting go. Knowing that no matter where I may roam your heart keeps me tethered to the place called home. Giving the soul enough space to blossom, manifest, & unfold. This is the power our trust truly holds.
You understand my need to simply be free, not insecure or frightened by me just being me….Your ability to love me just as I AM is the strong foundation on which our love stands.
Forsaking all others you never require of me as our love is built on radical honesty. We understand that love is infinite possibility…we allow it to bloom where ever our hearts plant a seed, be it as a unit or individually.
Freedom…that’s the magic you see. Allowing one another to fully BE. There is only 1 you & only 1 me and we get to design what works for “We”. Sharing our lives is a choice that we make and I choose you again & again everyday.
To see your heart open and a beautiful smile on your face means such a great deal to me. It matters not if the source of that joy is your love for “Us” or your love for “She”. If she matters to you then she matters to me. I suppose in a world that requires a label that makes our style of Amore…Poly.
I AM Twin Spirit & I Creatively Express the Spirit of Me in Many Many Ways!!
I create MUSIC: www.iAmTwinSpirit.com
I love to write & share my Random Musings..so I blog: www.MyBeautifulUglyWorld.wordpress.com
I create wearable ART: www.facebook.com/choozlove
I love/sell recycled fashions: www.ThriftyGirlsRock.com & The Frugal Stop – Pop Up Shop
I like expressing my style via funky footwear so I partnered in a shoe boutique: www.DivaFeetShoetique.com
I love to support other Artist, so I founded The SOFA Series: www.TheSofaSeries.com
I love to inspire Artist & small Art/Entertainment based businesses to grow so I provide consulting & administrative services: www.YuckWork.com
My Creative Self Expression is not limited to One Medium, One Form, One Experience, or One Platform. I Morph, Shift, Change, Expand, & Flow as I move through each and every moment. I want to experience all that this life has to offer…so I love hard, play hard, work hard, & relax as much as I desire. I try it all on for size. If inspired I MOVE. Labels, boxes, & expectations do not define me. ONLY the Callings of My Heart & Soul Mold the path that I chose to walk on this journey we call “LIFE”.
Shared with Love and a healthy dose of indignation,