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Random Musings: I Don’t Believe in Loving Small!

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A MOMENT OF TRANSPARENCY: “I simply do not believe in Loving small. I have no idea how to do that. I do not know how to shrink the way that I feel or pretend that I care less than I do, honestly I see no benefit in withholding care or emotion. I see no use in starving those you care for of your presence and adoration or holding back affection.

I see no strength gained, safety secured, or virtue claimed in silencing I Love You’s, I Miss You’s, I Believe in You’s, & I Care’s. Why stingily dole out deep long hugs and passionate kisses. Or save for a later day our tender touches or passionate caresses.

Why are we so generous with complaints, criticisms, cold shoulders, attitudes, & anger but flinch at the mere thought of those we care deeply for knowing that we actually give a damn and care?

I refuse to participate in the lunacy of it all.

If I care about you then I am going to say it and show it in all the things that I do. I am going to be honest in my interactions with you and share openly how I think and feel. I am going to be as transparent as I can. If you move me, you’ll know it. If I crave your energy I will not hold back my desire to bask in it often. If you inspire me, I’ll tell you. If I am disappointed, I will share that too. If you stir my passions then so be it.

Genuine Care to me = openness, honesty, compassion, support, communication, time, laughter, fun, depth, freedom, trust, listening, respect, acceptance, & creative energy flow.

This Life is but a mere blink of an eye…I plan on living mine fully and loving with all that I have in me until I am no more. I am not afraid to LOVE & Be Loved. No regrets.” ~ always Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: I Choose Relief…

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Some days I simply choose relief…
this may look many different ways.
sometimes it’s a smile,
others it’s a gentle letting go,
at times it’s an outburst or a melting away,
some days it’s an air of “whatever” with a side of “I simply don’t care”
Whatever it is..I embrace it and honor my right to choose it in that moment.
There is no right or wrong in the matter. Interpret it as you will…
My only concern is that it is authentic and sits well with my soul
and I’m truly okay with that. ~ Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: Love Boldly!!

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“LOVE Me Boldly!
No timid intentions.
Let your actions speak loudly the desires of your heart.
Uncertainty breeds insecurity, so
if you want me, Let me know.

I desire a partner who compels my strength and
who is not afraid to love me fully & freely.
not afraid to laugh with me.
not afraid to cry with me.
not afraid to move me.
not afraid to explore with me.
not afraid to grow with me.
not afraid to be open with me.
not afraid to inspire me.
not afraid to want me.
not afraid to need me.
not afraid to take risk with me or live out your fantasies with me.
not afraid to be your best and worst self with me.
not afraid to go deep with me in every way imaginable.

One who will stay when life gets messy but not because we are in a comfortable rut, or because we are to afraid to admit we desire more, or because it’s been so many years, or because we are content with the status quo as it doesn’t require us to face ourselves and own our shit, or because we’ve gotten so comfortable with our dysfunction that it feels like it’s okay, our because it would require us to stand on our own two feet and be independent rather than codependent, or because we are afraid to be honest and admit we have settled for less than our soul truly desires, or simply because it’s just easier to stay…

But one who STAYS because they cannot imagine another soul that they would rather get messy with and trust me it will get messy , travel the world with, slay dragons with, create with, build with, live their dreams with, fail & succeed with, serve the world with, dance in the rain with, expand their mind with, become the best version of themselves with, break down walls with, heal hearts with, tap into the essence of their spirit with, unleash their passions with, share quiet moments with, do everything and nothing with until they are no more…..

I crave a partner who will challenge me to ask questions, go deeper, never settle, & push harder.

Who will hold me accountable for my own happiness and join me in creating the life of our Dreams….TOGETHER!

and equally important One who will allow me to LOVE him boldly too.” – Twin Spirit

Random Musings: I Am Not My Skin

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This was on my heart today and I felt compelled to share: It may trigger some and perhaps inspire others but it is my TRUTH!

My Human experience is not limited to or defined by the color of my skin. As gloriously beautiful as my sun kissed melanin rich brown skin may be it alone does not inherently decide my path.

My exquisite brown skin, while divinely designed, determines not my Value, my Character, my Future, my Creativity, my Intelligence, my Beauty, my Strength, my Ability, my Courage, my Contribution, the expansiveness of my Spirit, the depth of my Love, nor the Capacity of my Mind to manifest. It is not the sum total of My Worth! To think otherwise diminishes the potentiality of the Powerful(l) spirit that is Me.

While those things may be influenced by the multitude of circumstances and experiences that I have been exposed to, many beyond the scope of my control, and may shape my journey; they have absolutely NO POWER to decide my ultimate fate. That decision and choice resides only with ME!

I will not perpetuate a spirit of hate or fear, nor support instilling a complex of inferiority or victim mindset. I will not villainize or condemn all of the other beautiful shades of the rainbow due to the crimes against humanity inflicted by some beings colored in that shade.

Nor do I subscribe to inspiring an over inflated stance of superiority or sense of entitlement based on skin tone into the hearts and minds of those whose skin in painted a brilliant shade of brown or any other shade for that matter.

Yes You Matter, and You Matter, & You Matter simply because you “ARE” & you “EXIST”, because you woke up this morning and YOU ARE HERE!! Because you are a Divine Being finding your way through this Human Experience ….Not because of your color, your system of belief, your race, your religion, your sexuality, your economic class, your education, your size, your history, your culture, your relationship status, how you live, how you love, what you eat, how you speak, where you were born, your challenges, your maltreatment, your triumphs, successes, or failures…but for no other reason than You being YOU!!!

I will NEVER give my POWER to BE Any and Everything that I dream and desire over to some preconceived notion or stereotype of who I Am or ought to be. Nobody that has come, is here now, or will ever Be gets to determine my Journey but the GOD in ME!

Outside factors may provide a palette of colorful experience but I and I alone get to paint my world and I choose to paint mine POWERFULLY BEAUTIFUL while proudly donning skin in a Beautiful shade of Chocolate Brown!!

Shared with nothing but Love from the Heart, Mind, Body, & Soul of the Spiritual Being living this life journey as Twin Spirit #UnapologeticallyLovingMe #Free

Random Musings: Black & Poly

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“To be wrapped in the warm secure cocoon of your never letting go. Knowing that no matter where I may roam your heart keeps me tethered to the place called home. Giving the soul enough space to blossom, manifest, & unfold. This is the power our trust truly holds.

You understand my need to simply be free, not insecure or frightened by me just being me….Your ability to love me just as I AM is the strong foundation on which our love stands.

Forsaking all others you never require of me as our love is built on radical honesty. We understand that love is infinite possibility…we allow it to bloom where ever our hearts plant a seed, be it as a unit or individually.

Freedom…that’s the magic you see. Allowing one another to fully BE. There is only 1 you & only 1 me and we get to design what works for “We”. Sharing our lives is a choice that we make and I choose you again & again everyday.

To see your heart open and a beautiful smile on your face means such a great deal to me. It matters not if the source of that joy is your love for “Us” or your love for “She”. If she matters to you then she matters to me. I suppose in a world that requires a label that makes our style of Amore…Poly.

The beautiful thing at the end of the day is there is nothing else I’d rather it BE.” ~ Love Free by Twin Spirit #FindYourPath #LoveFree #ManyWaysToLove #Polyamory #Open #Honest #Free

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Random Musings: Find Your “HOW” & Execute!

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Find Your HOW“There is, perhaps, nothing more common to the Human Experience than conflict. It often stems from varied perspectives on a situation; differing belief systems and values resulting from a persons accumulated life experiences and conditioning; and differing objectives and interests.

There is one thing in this life that I know for sure. It is that I will never fully understand everyone’s perspectives on this journey but I do respect their right to have them. I may not live, love, emote, see, express, feel, grieve, respond, look, or think as you do but that doesn’t make me any more or less human than you.

The truth is that we were all born into our histories. We did not earn the accolades that are associated nor the shames. We have no true recollection of where the strife began nor do we fully know where to point the finger or know each individual who is to blame because we were not there. We can repeat the stories shaped and retold over the decades. Handed down generation to generation but we can never be for certain of the total and complete truth. All we know for sure is the current pain and suffering being caused by deeply ingrained hurts and fears birthed from belief systems with roots so deeply embedded that they have cut off our ability to see that in all of our differences, that this is what makes us beautiful as a human race.

This is the point at which we stand. This is where the “Real Power” lies….We can choose to spend the remainder of our existence on this planet blaming and destroying one another for all the ills that plague us and fighting ghost of the past or we can simply chose to do something different. Singularly or Collectively.

Effectively dealing with conflict requires the expression and management of peoples varying perspectives, interests, belief systems and values. It is important to meet people exactly where they are. Hear from them fully before trying to lead them anywhere. You can not effectively move toward resolution until each party experiences themselves to be heard on “their perspective,” “what they want,” and “why.”

Conflict arises when one or more person views the current system as NOT working. At least one party or group is so sufficiently dissatisfied with the status quo that they are willing to own the conflict and speak up with the hope of being able to influence the situation to arrive at an improved condition. Conflict may be viewed as a process we must put ourselves through to achieve a “New Conditions” and “Self Definition. Through conflict we have opportunities to be creatively self-defining. If nothing else, conflict allows us to do things differently in the future. Through the resolution of conflict, we can, if we choose, evolve and redefine ourselves, our relationships, our community, our society and our world. It is no accident that we most often find ourselves in conflict with those with whom we spend the most time. While uncomfortable and often painful, there is a great benefit, in terms of the quality of our lives, in being able to constructively resolve conflict with those around us.

The biggest challenge is always the “HOW”.

Now is the time to formulate and execute the HOW.

All of our how’s may be different but they are all needed. Together they are more Impactful.

Find your “HOW” and execute.

Don’t waste energy or time dissecting someone else’s HOW, that only creates more division.

FOCUS on Your “HOW” and Execute!!

I choose to execute my HOW’s with LOVE and Razor sharp precision….

Shared from the heart of a fellow Human Being Living this life on this Planet that Belongs to Us ALL” ~ Unapologetically Twin Spirit