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Random Musings: A Moment of Transparency…

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Moment of Transparency: There is truly only 1 man I have ever been in Love with. I have liked fondly, cared for, craved, and had love for others but only one has crawled into the deep recesses of my heart, soul, & mind and stayed there.

I still love him to this day and if I am honest am still “in-love” with him too. I will always love him, at his best and at his worst. I think it’s because I see him clearly for who and what he is….not just an ideal or a representation of what I wish him to be. He is amazing and awful at the same damn time…lol.

He has made me smile, laugh, & blush and he has also made me cry. He has made me feel beautiful and like I don’t matter. He is all that I wish a man to be and many of the things I can’t stand. He is free like the wind and often an island unto himself. He is giving and selfish, kind and cruel, open and secretive, honest and a liar.

He is a paradox but if I am honest I wouldn’t want him to be any other way.

It’s easy to believe that if only “they” would be just what you want them to be that life would be perfect and so simple but the truth is that loving him just the way he is has forced me to explore and understand Me. Pushed me outside of my comfort zone and made me accept that at the end of the day I, and I alone, hold the key to my happiness. (not another being, not a relationship status, & not who loves me in return.)

He is my Soulmate and I love him with all that is in me but he is not my man. I do not belong to him and he does not belong to me. Our connection is not always rainbows and butterflies but it is honest and it is real…and it is Beautiful ~ Twin Spirit

Random Musings: Just Read Me

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A Moment of Transparency from TwinSpirit : Have you ever woken up, looked around at your current situation and asked yourself “How Did I End Up Back In This Same Place Again?”. There are times when you have to ask yourself what you really really want in this life.

Not what you are “okay” with or the minimum you are willing to accept or what you have accepted in the past, but what is it that you truly long for in this life and then you must honestly decide if you have been doing all that is necessary to bring those things into fruition. If not, You must ask yourself are you ready and willing to do what is required to achieve those things and once you have them are you willing to put in the work to maintain them.

I finally had to admit to myself a few years ago that some of the things that I deeply longed for I had yet to achieve or receive because over and over again I had often settled for less than what I truly wanted, needed, desired, & honestly deserved in many situations.

I held on when it would have been wiser to let go, I said yes when I should have said no. I allowed my understanding nature & kindness to be pushed and stretched beyond limits that were healthy for me. I let my desire to be a “nice” or “good” person overshadow my ability to be truly honest when my needs were not being met or I was hurting because I was afraid that asking for what I truly wanted would make me appear needy.

The Real & Hard TRUTH is that most times we are in the spaces and places we are in because we allow it. Somewhere deep inside we feel powerless and at the mercy of our circumstances.

The moment we realize that we are the key that unlocks the prison door we instantly become FREE.

Free to let go, move forward, make changes, say no & say Yes to what our souls truly desire.

You are the Captain of your own destiny. Plot your course and sail it in the direction of your purpose and dreams. Whatever they may be. Release those things that hold you back and hold you down. Silence self doubt and the whispers in your ears telling you what you can’t do or where you can’t go. They are lies.

You do not need anyone’s permission to live a better life. So stop waiting for the worlds approval and Go For It….and remember ONLY YOU have the power to decide what “IT” shall be.

I Believe In You…But The Magic Happens When YOU Believe In You Too!!

Love Always,
~ Twin Spirit

Random Musings: I Am Not My Skin

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This was on my heart today and I felt compelled to share: It may trigger some and perhaps inspire others but it is my TRUTH!

My Human experience is not limited to or defined by the color of my skin. As gloriously beautiful as my sun kissed melanin rich brown skin may be it alone does not inherently decide my path.

My exquisite brown skin, while divinely designed, determines not my Value, my Character, my Future, my Creativity, my Intelligence, my Beauty, my Strength, my Ability, my Courage, my Contribution, the expansiveness of my Spirit, the depth of my Love, nor the Capacity of my Mind to manifest. It is not the sum total of My Worth! To think otherwise diminishes the potentiality of the Powerful(l) spirit that is Me.

While those things may be influenced by the multitude of circumstances and experiences that I have been exposed to, many beyond the scope of my control, and may shape my journey; they have absolutely NO POWER to decide my ultimate fate. That decision and choice resides only with ME!

I will not perpetuate a spirit of hate or fear, nor support instilling a complex of inferiority or victim mindset. I will not villainize or condemn all of the other beautiful shades of the rainbow due to the crimes against humanity inflicted by some beings colored in that shade.

Nor do I subscribe to inspiring an over inflated stance of superiority or sense of entitlement based on skin tone into the hearts and minds of those whose skin in painted a brilliant shade of brown or any other shade for that matter.

Yes You Matter, and You Matter, & You Matter simply because you “ARE” & you “EXIST”, because you woke up this morning and YOU ARE HERE!! Because you are a Divine Being finding your way through this Human Experience ….Not because of your color, your system of belief, your race, your religion, your sexuality, your economic class, your education, your size, your history, your culture, your relationship status, how you live, how you love, what you eat, how you speak, where you were born, your challenges, your maltreatment, your triumphs, successes, or failures…but for no other reason than You being YOU!!!

I will NEVER give my POWER to BE Any and Everything that I dream and desire over to some preconceived notion or stereotype of who I Am or ought to be. Nobody that has come, is here now, or will ever Be gets to determine my Journey but the GOD in ME!

Outside factors may provide a palette of colorful experience but I and I alone get to paint my world and I choose to paint mine POWERFULLY BEAUTIFUL while proudly donning skin in a Beautiful shade of Chocolate Brown!!

Shared with nothing but Love from the Heart, Mind, Body, & Soul of the Spiritual Being living this life journey as Twin Spirit #UnapologeticallyLovingMe #Free

Random Musings: Hostage of Love

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Perfection is not a requirement in love, but honesty should be. Many of us lie to ourselves and others, believing that in doing so, we make our world simpler, more comfortable, or that it is in fact kind or providing protection to the ones we care for or love. We fear the truth for the perceived weaknesses it may expose in us or the changes it might create to our current situation. We learn to cover challenging, difficult to express, or unpleasant realities with illusions of who or what we are.

Being fully & honestly Ourselves in a world where everyone seems to want to control us, remake us, judge us, or punish us is indeed a challenge, for the disapproval of others is a powerful deterrent. But Is it or should it be a strong enough reason to be less than who we truly are are want to be?

REMEMBER: Any action that inhibits our truth is not Love. Love is only Love when it liberates. LOVE should liberate and release us to live fully, express openly, & communicate honestly without fear of retaliation, punishing silences, emotional manipulations, or threats to our being and without the constant need to conform to the designs, expectations, boxes, insecurities, or installed programming of another to prove our love is real.

Denying parts of who you really are or things your heart and soul truly need in exchange for acceptance slowly deteriorates the foundation on which you stand. Now please understand I am not advocating “Selfishness” as I realize that we must consider those we love and care for in the choices we make but if that consideration inspires or dictates that we live Small, Hide our truth, or be dishonest about our needs we must ask ourselves is the trade-off worth it and is the connection based in love or is it attachment.

Self examination can be a scary thing but it is a necessary process when seeking truth…It truly can help us grow ~ Shared with love from the heart of TwinSpirit

Random Musings: Radical Honesty

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Are You COURAGEOUS Enough To Be Honest?

To be honest with yourself and others can be a difficult thing, because, in order to be honest, you must be courageous enough to take a look deep into your psyche and confront your weaknesses, fears, & insecurities—and expose them openly to the world—which is what we are most afraid of.

The majority of us have contrived a false image of ourselves. This image, however, is just a veil to cover our shadow self, not only from the eyes of others, but from our own as well. Thus the way we have been living so far is just an escape from self-understanding and genuine communication.

Unless we face, understand, and accept ourselves—unless we get in tune with the core of our feelings, emotions, thoughts, and intentions—how can we find harmony within ourselves and the world?

To look for truth, and to be honest, is terrifying. Forget big universal truths; I’m talking about little truths, personal truths. We are afraid to look inward, and to be honest with ourselves. And even if we are courageous enough to do that, then we are so concerned with the feelings of others, that we are afraid to share our truths with them. We punish ourselves with all sorts of guilt for even imagining causing someone emotional pain, when we really have no idea how they will feel if we were actually honest. We jump through crazy ridiculous hoops, all because we want to avoid the turmoil of potential emotional pain (theirs and ours). Being honest and being kind are not mutually exclusive. You can and should deliver your truth without blame or judgment, but definitely with kindness.

Sometimes we find ourselves in relationship dynamics with people who we perceive as emotionally fragile or explosive (it’s really the same thing). So we subjugate ourselves, and learn to maneuver around them. We do everything we can just to avoid those emotional mines. We never know when we’ll step on some trigger, so we hide the parts of ourselves we assume they will not accept or understand. We tread lightly. We speak less honestly. We express ourselves less openly. But unwittingly and inevitably repeating this process over and over, day in and day out, can cause resentments to grow. The less we share…the less of a connection is made. 

Instead, I propose that we try honesty. (It’s really scary, I KNOW, but it’s so very worth it). Let’s respect one another. Let’s trust each other to handle the truth. Let’s be really clear within ourselves, and with all the other people in our lives. Let’s unchain ourselves from guilt and obligation. Let’s give ourselves permission to be open, honest, & free. Let’s forget about seeking approval, and instead live in our own integrity. It is near to impossible to get to the places you desire and to receive the things you want in life when you are not open and honest about what you truly need.

In order to really give love, in a way that is unconditional you have to love yourself first. To love yourself simply means to honor your own needs.

Really living your truth is about getting still enough, and being courageous enough, to admit to yourself what you want, and what you don’t want. It’s tuning in to the pit-of-your-stomach feelings, and figuring stuff out from there. It is about standing in your integrity, and following your internal guidance, even when it goes against social norms, the mores of your specific community, or the good intentioned opinions of those we care for.

It takes courage, real courage, to live/speak your truth. Courage isn’t about jumping out of airplanes or diving with sharks. It’s not about physical activities that get the adrenaline pumping. Real courage happens in very quiet and subtle moments. In those intimate, vulnerable exchanges when you’re afraid to speak the truth. When you’re afraid to honor your own feelings, when you’re afraid that if you say or do what your heart is asking of you, that you will be dismissed, shamed, ridiculed, or rejected. Or that the truth of your feelings will hurt the feelings of another.

The most amazing thing about radical honesty is that YES it’s not always easy and Yes your life will change but you aren’t going to be alone and rejected in the ways you may worry about. You will instead filter out the people who love and accept the real you, from those that only conditionally accept you (if you fit in to the image of who they want you to be). If you are brave enough to be the real you, you will find lots of love, support, friendship, opportunity, and companionship from other souls who are just like you.

I hope you find the courage to try it. Being the real you (whatever that means), out in the open, it is truly gifts you with a rewarding and delicious life experience!

From my heart to yours,
Love Always…
~ Twin Spirit ღ

Random Musings: Spiritual Vs. Religious

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Defining “Spiritual but Not Religious” for those who feel that a description is necessary 🙂 (While I don’t often feel compelled to explain myself for simply just being..I have found that it does sometimes bring a little peace to those that are uncomfortable with “MY” life choices…lol)

Spirituality is one’s capacity to be guided. It is not about how much we mediate. Or how often we go to church. Or how many yoga poses or Sanskrit words we know. Or how much time we spend praying. Or how many Om pieces of jewelry we have. Spirituality is really about how much we get out of our own way and allow ourselves to be guided by God.

That means . . .

Letting go of expectations.

Releasing attachments to the way we think things should be.

Quieting the voice of our ego so we can hear the voice of inner wisdom.

Making changes that maybe scary and facing uncertainty with faith.

Being of service to others that Spirit places in our lives in often unexpected ways.

Spirituality is a commitment to walking the spiritual path from the head to the heart. It’s a choice to free yourself from letting your ego take the lead in your life so you can surrender your ego’s attachments and instead, let your soul take the wheel.

It’s the decision to choose love over fear—to withhold judgment of yourself or others, to stop labeling everything as “right” or “wrong,” to transition from a black and white “dualistic” world to a non-dual perspective that is comfortable with paradox.

It’s the willingness to make your life an offering to the Divine in whatever form you resonate with a Higher Power, whether it’s God, Jesus, Allah, Buddah, the Wind, Music, Butterflies, Art, Chocolate, or some other deity or just the Divine within yourself.

It’s your commitment to learning to receive, interpret, and discern spiritual guidance, mixed with the courage to actually act upon this guidance. ~ Shared with Love

Twin Spirit

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Random Musings: Please…Stop the Hate!!

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“It is so easy to draw conclusions and judge others when you do not know their story or fully understand the reasons why they do the things they do. It is easy to condemn, put down, & ridicule those who walk a different path. We all do it….

Though it is human to evaluate people & situations we encounter based on first impressions, the conclusions we come to are seldom unaffected by our own fears, experiences, our own preconceptions, & limited perspectives. As such, our judgments are frequently incomplete. If we explored a bit more deeply into the heart of the tendency to categorize and criticize, we would often find our own personal insecurity.

Recognizing that we limit our awareness by assessing others critically can make moving past our initial impressions much easier. Judgments seldom leave room for alternate possibilities.

We often Empower our own Self Image through Disempowering others.

Harsh judgment and anger is far worse for the heart than any plaque or cholesterol laden food. To judge one moment in time, without regard for the past or what is to come in the future, lacks wisdom.

None of us enjoy being Judged, but we dole out hasty & often hateful judgements to others on a regular basis. We all want to be heard, understood, and accepted, so isn’t it humorous that we often chose not to extend those same courtesies to others.

Learn to Listen to each other’s story; find some compassion; judge less and love more…starting with yourself. Judge Less & Accept More. To Accept (to receive or acknowledge something) does not mean you Agree (harmonize in opinion, feeling, or view). To enable connection, one must be willing to accept the ideas of other people as, at the very least, true for them.

We will likely never all agree about our belief systems or life choices for that matter, and while it is great to build a network of people who do view the world and other lifestyle choices the same way you do, we also need to respect those who choose to live or believe in a way we disagree with… without being arrogant or judgmental in our interactions.

As the greatest cause of Dis-Ease in man is often the heavy servings of guilt, condemnation, judgement, impatience, intolerance, & lack of love that we feed one another on a daily basis.” – Shared with Love, Twin Spirit  ❦

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