Perfection is not a requirement in love, but honesty should be. Many of us lie to ourselves and others, believing that in doing so, we make our world simpler, more comfortable, or that it is in fact kind or providing protection to the ones we care for or love. We fear the truth for the perceived weaknesses it may expose in us or the changes it might create to our current situation. We learn to cover challenging, difficult to express, or unpleasant realities with illusions of who or what we are.
Being fully & honestly Ourselves in a world where everyone seems to want to control us, remake us, judge us, or punish us is indeed a challenge, for the disapproval of others is a powerful deterrent. But Is it or should it be a strong enough reason to be less than who we truly are are want to be?
REMEMBER: Any action that inhibits our truth is not Love. Love is only Love when it liberates. LOVE should liberate and release us to live fully, express openly, & communicate honestly without fear of retaliation, punishing silences, emotional manipulations, or threats to our being and without the constant need to conform to the designs, expectations, boxes, insecurities, or installed programming of another to prove our love is real.
Denying parts of who you really are or things your heart and soul truly need in exchange for acceptance slowly deteriorates the foundation on which you stand. Now please understand I am not advocating “Selfishness” as I realize that we must consider those we love and care for in the choices we make but if that consideration inspires or dictates that we live Small, Hide our truth, or be dishonest about our needs we must ask ourselves is the trade-off worth it and is the connection based in love or is it attachment.
Self examination can be a scary thing but it is a necessary process when seeking truth…It truly can help us grow ~ Shared with love from the heart of TwinSpirit