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Random Musings: More Kindness, Less Judgement

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An image of a plate of Soul Food came across my news feed this morning. The poster commented how if a woman he was dating served him this plate of food that he would break up with her and he even described it as a “Slave Plate”. Many of the comments that followed while factually accurate with regard to how certain foods chemically react with the body were delivered in such an unloving and condescending tone that it made the information unpalatable and not very easy to receive. It made me ask myself 2 questions: Why Do We Take Such Pride In Judging Others and Why Do Those Who Have Decided To Walk A New Path Condemn Those Who Are On The Path They Chose To Leave Behind?

Let’s be clear on one thing….Food Choices Are Not a Moral Issue

“A culture that redefines food choices as moral issues will demonize the people who don’t share the tastes of the priest class. A culture that elevates eating to some holistic act of ethical self-definition will find the casual carefree choices of the less-enlightened as an affront to their belief system. Leave it to Humans to invent a Puritan strain of Epicurianism.”

There are certainly moral issues around food – including the lack of food for many people around the world, how food is produced or processed, living out our convictions through the food we buy and serve other people, sharing the things we know with other people in an informative, non-judgemental way, and so on.

The issue, though, comes when we start to judge other people based on the food choices they’re making for themselves and their families.

We assume that because we’ve been convicted of something, they should be too, and therefore they’re making “inferior” choices out of laziness or, if they say they can’t afford to eat better, because of poor financial management or ignorance.

I think it is easy to forget how overwhelming it is to go against the stream when you’ve grown up eating a certain way that often includes many processed foods. Our whole lives, we’ve been taught that it’s convenient! And manufactured to have all the nutrients you need! And affordable! In some cases, someone may have read all the same literature as you and simply disagree.

“We know that we all have knowledge on some things. Knowledge puffs up, but love edifies.”

“But food does not commend us to Source (God); for neither if we eat are we the better, nor if we do not eat are we the worse.”

We will likely never all agree about food choices or life choices for that matter, and while it is great to build a network of people who do view food and other lifestyle choices the same way you do, we also need to respect those who choose to eat foods or live in a way we disagree with… without being arrogant or judgmental in our interactions.

“As the greatest cause of Dis-Ease in man is often the heavy servings of guilt, condemnation, judgement, impatience, intolerance, & lack of love that we feed one another on a daily basis.” ~ Twin Spirit​ – Shared in a spirit of ❤

Random Musings: FREE

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I need to be free like the wind.

Free to move, flow, stretch, grow.

Unencumbered by the limiting ideas of what others think I should be.

I am, I see, I vibe, I Be. I sing, I dance with out stretched hands to my own rhythm. I’m an artist, I was born to create. I’m a lover, I was not born to hate. I’m a fighter for unity. I’m a light shining on all I see. I Am a Goddess and God is Me. I’m a magician I create my own reality. Life is whatever I imagine it to be.

Some days I forget and attempt to hide but my magic still bubbles and brews inside. My essence, my love, sexual energy are simply ways I express the many parts of me..I crave not an emotional prison where I am locked and confined but a connection where I can explore & expand my brilliant mind.

Is there a place that is made for me, it’s any place that I may choose be.

When I open up and let you in, you’ve been granted a gift into the world of Twin. Not many may enter but those that do are lifted and shifted to a place called “YOU”. My calling, my purpose, my divine gift you see, is to love so freely that it sets others FREE. Reconnecting us to the God in We.

~from the heart of Twin Spirit ღ

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Random Musing: Freedom of Forgiveness

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“Recently I had the opportunity of a lifetime presented to me. The chance to let someone who hurt me very deeply “have it” in a way that I had been unable to give it to them in the past because I was to wounded. My chance had arrived to hurt them as badly as I had been hurt. I had all of the awful things I wanted to say & do all planned out and I was ready to pounce like a hungry lion in the jungle who hadn’t eaten for weeks.
 
Then a funny thing happened…when the moment arrived things did not play out as I planned. We argued a bit, we disagreed, we debated, and then we just talked. We talked more openly and honestly than we ever have before.
 
The amazing thing that happened during this interaction is that all of my pain and resentment began to melt away and I began to see something that I never had before…that in ways I had shut them out too.
 
Not being fully authentic & completely me and attempting to only present the parts of me that I thought they would accept and love was just as dishonest and hurtful to them as the things they did to me. We were both responsible for the current state of our relationship.
 
There were no victims, only 2 people both afraid that they were not “good enough” just as they are. Two people functioning with played out internal scripts & immature ways of connecting that no longer served them. Two people hiding behind forced smiles & cool unconcern. Never wanting to be the one who cared too much but deeply thirsty for real love and genuine appreciation. Dying to be accepted just as we are but too scared to trust that the other would accept us and also not extending that same acceptance to the other.
 
It is amazing the power that genuine understanding and forgiveness have to instantly transform. Letting go of the pain freed me & them. Giving us the opportunity to benefit from the greatest gift that it brings…PEACE!” ~ Twin Spirit
 
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