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Be bold enough to speak the truth that is in your heart
Be FREE enough to receive the truth shared with you by others via their words and actions
and be truthful enough to see things as they are and not just how you want them to be.
For the life of me I cannot understand why speaking the truth is such a hard thing to do for so many.
Yes, I understand that we often worry about what others will think or how others will react but never should that justify holding the truth hostage from another.
Never is it okay to take away anothers right to full disclosure so that they can decide for themselves what is best for them.
It is weak to avoid the truth in order to avoid confrontation. It is dishonest to hide behind politeness & pleasantries rather then to speak what your true thoughts, desires, and intentions are. It is wrong to lead another on just to maintain the perks and benefits of that connection.
Honesty matters a great deal to me. It always has. Over the last few months I have had to accept that many individuals in my life say what you want to hear rather than speak their truth. I have had to accept that many will disguise themselves as a friend in order to benefit from our connection.
I RESPECT honesty and value TRUTH. It matters a great deal to me and it has to be the foundation of all of my relationships…from personal to business.
We have so many justifications for being dishonest and distorting the truth:
- Trying to spare someone’s feelings or pride.
– Not wanting others to think badly of us.
– Afraid that someone might steal our recognition.
– Thinking that we are protecting someone.
– Protecting our ego by avoiding embarrassment.
– An effort to help others save face.
– Our image or reputation is on the line.
– We dislike someone but don’t want them to know.
Being honest requires courage because it makes us vulnerable and accountable. To avoid stepping on the feelings of others with our honesty also requires tact. Clearly, being truly honest involves more than just telling the truth in every situation, but for people of integrity it is the only acceptable choice.
“Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is
telling the truth to other people.” ~Spencer Johnson
Being honest may not always be the easiest or most convenient course, but it is the course of integrity. Regardless of the prevalence of dishonesty, we all have the freedom to choose to live by a higher standard. People of integrity will always recognize and appreciate your honestyand courage.
Honesty is often the road less traveled…but the path is filled with much clarity and more authentic experiences.
Having to “look good” to win others people’s love and approval is a lot of energy and work. Hiding parts of ourselves only keeps us in a lot of shame and fear because we’re scared of being “found out”.
The truth may sting for a moment but a lie buries its roots deep and can cause pain that last for lifetimes.
‘Do You Have The Courage To Be Honest and Live an Authentic Life?’
Remember: “Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.” -Hardy D. Jackson
With Love & a Greater Understanding,